My Life Journey

Tammy Loftis, Life Coach, Author, Motivational Speaker

Personal Story

 Imagine waking up from a nightmare that is so unbelievable that it shakes you to your core. That is what happened in my life in 1990. I screamed for my mother's help in the dream, only to be met with "just lay there baby it will be over with soon". I questioned my mother about the dreams, only to find out that my worst nightmare was true. My mother and my biological father had sexually abused me from the ages of 2.5 yrs old until I was almost 7. I swore to never forgive my mother that day and began an internal battle of hurt, anger, bitterness and abandonment. Little did I know that God had other plans for me. 


I found myself in church, working on building a relationship with a God I wasn't sure existed. He started working on my heart and helped me remember the good times with my mom. I spoke with my pastor and he taught me that Forgiveness is a Decision and not an emotion. That unforgiveness causes the emotions that cause us so much turmoil in life. Through that life lesson I learned to not only forgive my mom, but also, I was able to cultivate a relationship with her that lasted until she passed away in December of 2013. In 2017, I kept the promise I spoke to my mom on her death bed, which was to scatter her ashes in the first far away place out of the country I traveled to. In September 2017, on top of a beautiful mountain overlooking the Fjord, my mom found her final resting place.

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Changing Her Life

I bottled up all of my life's hurt, anger and pain over the years and had no idea of the storm that was brewing inside me. In December of 2009, I had a stare down with a bottle of sleeping pills, hoping that by the end of the day, slumber would claim me forever. A dear friend called me that day and talked me out of something that he had no idea was about to happen. It was then that I decided something had to change in my life! I wasn't sure that there would be another phone call if I ever crossed paths with this darkness in my soul again.


I was a 42 year old stripper trying not to be homeless. I weighed almost 200lbs and hated the life I had created for myself. Over the following 90 days, I completely transformed my body and the body's of 2 of my best friends. That is where I had my first light switch moment to become a personal trainer. It was a long 2 years of internal battle and life struggles but I Did It! I changed my life and my stars! 


I walked away from the dark world of dancing, alcohol and drugs without ever looking back. Built an amazing personal training business which led me to a new dream of becoming a life coach! I taught myself how to become a better person. I took responsibility for my past and created a new life that I never thought would be possible from the dark places I once lived. 


At the end of 2017, at the age of 50, I sold everything I owned and drove across country from Atlanta, Ga, to San Diego, Ca to start the next part of my life journey

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Since I have been in San Diego, I have finished my book, sharing my life story, titled: "Dear Victim, It's Time For Us To Break Up Now! A story of Empowerment, through Forgiveness, Strength and Love." Which goes on sale wherever online books are sold, July 4th, 2019. I also have a successful podcast called "Life Awakening, Let's Talk About It!" where I get real candid with my life and the lessons I learned to help my audience take the steps to change their life too. (click the MORE tab above to take a listen) 


I am also a Motivational Speaker! I share my amazing journey, life lessons of empowerment, strength, and  leadership that I have taught myself on this journey to Loving myself unconditionally. Giving my audiences a riveting show that is full of tears, laughter and laughter that leads to tears. Showing them that it doesn't matter where you come from, what you have been through or who other people think you are. You are in control of your destiny and Now is the time to Take your Power Back and Create Your Life By Design! 


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